Do you feel the chilly winds and freezing temperature today? And it is not even the beginning yet. Technically we are not even in winter yet. Empty streets, fallen leaves, barren trees, gray skies, and chilly winds can be sad. Seasonal Effective disorder (SAD) affects over half a million Americans and 60-90% of them are [...]
Often we think of courage as something big or a heroic deed you do to save the world. Following is the definition of courage from Merriam Webster: mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty. Courage to me is to have the strength of speaking your mind without the fear [...]
Your relationships and people in your life are trying to tell you something. Pay attention if you want satisfying relationships and peace of mind! Relationships are hard to understand, make, and to maintain. A lot of my clients have trouble doing all the above. So I thought I would write something about the nature of [...]
Before we delve into the business of indecisiveness, I would like to shed some light on an existential anxiety called Fear of Freedom. Fear of freedom is also known as fear of responsibility. This existential fear can be so overwhelming that it can leave you paralyzed to the point of chronic indecisiveness. This existential fear [...]
Three Steps to Help You Overcome the Fear of Death Are you afraid of death? To be honest, who isn’t scared of death at times? The fact is that death is inevitable. We cannot escape from it. Almost everyone struggles with this reality of life, but not many people know how to effectively cope with [...]
America woke up to a different reality today. It certainly is very disappointing and frustrating for me to see what America chose to go with. I am not here to judge Trump and his supporters, but he was portrayed in a certain light, which is not so positive in my opinion. What saddens and disappoints [...]
October 10th is World Mental Health Awareness Day. The World Federation of Mental Health initiated this celebration in 1992. The purpose of celebrating this day is to spread global mental health education, awareness, and advocacy to eliminate social stigma around mental illness. Actually there is also a Mental Illness (Health) Awareness Day (MIAW) establish [...]
In an earlier blog posting, I wrote about the upside of being a perfectionist. I shared how a perfectionist can use his perfectionist tendencies to move towards higher levels of consciousness. But as he strives grow and evolve, he realizes that he has to leave his old self behind. My clients often express remorse during [...]
Why don’t I feel like I’m ever enough? We all have asked that question at some point in our lives. Feeling inadequate can be the source of a lot of different mental health issues. Many of my clients suffer from feelings of self-doubt and inadequacy, the need to be perfect, and an unachievable image [...]
Perfectionism is more prevalent today than we think; its definition is frequently misunderstood. Ironically, people who are perfectionists often resist the idea that they are, in fact, perfectionists. Instead they argue that, not only are they not perfectionists, but that if they were, life would be much easier because “everything would be perfect.” Because perfectionism [...]
Last week, we talked about the importance of a good mental health. Today we will look at some general coping skills you can adopt to maintain a good mental health. Be thankful! Practicing gratitude might be the easiest way to gain positive mental health, but very few people do it. A lot of my clients [...]
“You are free and that is why you are lost.” Franz Kafka Do you feel lost or stuck in your life? I have…many times and I have a 3-step system to getting you unstuck. You might be surprised to know that feeling lost or stuck is due to lack of responsibility. It is your responsibility [...]
Mental Unhealth: What Does it Look Like? Let’s first get to the facts by National Alliance on Mental Health (NAMI): Approximately 1 in 5 adults in the U.S.—43.8 million, or 18.5%—experiences mental illness in a given year. 9% of adults in the U.S.—16 million—had at least one major depressive episode in the past year. 1% [...]
We’ve all been in a predicament where we don’t agree with the traditions or beliefs passed down to us from our upbringing. The unrest and heartache it causes can affect our well-being. Sometimes, we only need a small tweak in the lens we use to look at the world so that our lives to align [...]
How often have you procrastinated to make a decision? Do you know why you waited until the last moment to decide? A client of mine, one with perfectionist tendencies, was feeling increasingly anxious from picking out his swimwear for his vacation. He had several different choices, but he wanted to go with the BEST choice. [...]
Do you ever feel like you are about to lose it if one more thing is added to your to-do list? I like my to-do list, but it can produce a lot of anxiety and make me doubt my ability to achieve my goals. I feel overwhelmed and chaotic when I don't have internal control. [...]
Stop the Blame Game When you are hurt, it is tempting to place blame on others to make yourself feel better. However, blaming things outside of yourself takes away your power. Instead of helping us feel empowered and in control, blaming keeps you in the role of ‘victim’. Holding things, circumstances, or people responsible for [...]
Self-Love through Appreciation: 3 Easy Steps You Can Take Today Sometimes we get so caught up in the world around us that we forget to pay attention to the vast world inside of us, the place where everything is born. Creativity, strength, inspiration, and compassion are just few gems found when you start to look [...]
Paradigm Shift: Changing your lens Changing your thought patterns and beliefs is at the center of growth and development. However, change is difficult. One of the biggest exercises I teach my clients is to change the lens through which they look at themselves and at the world. I remind them that whatever lens they are [...]